Del and Tammy
Dear Birthparent(s),
Thank you for reading
our letter and for wanting to get to know Tammy and myself. We want to
start off by letting you know what a very special person you are that would
give such a treasured gift to a waiting family. Our respect and love for you
overflows and will be something that we will always share about you as the
birthparent to our adoptive child. Please remember that during this time
and forevermore our thoughts and prayers will be with you in whatever your
future may hold.
When we met there was
this feeling of being "at home". We had both known that one day we would
find that special someone with whom we wanted to share the rest of our lives
with and that is what we found in each other. The day we met neither one of
us was looking for that someone, it was just a chance encounter of being out
with friends that brought us together, and some of our friends call it fate.
As our love grew we both talked about how much we wanted to have children.
After we were married we started trying to get pregnant and even went down
the path of having invitro fertilization, which turned out to be
unsuccessful. The heartache of not being able to have children was
tremendous. It took time to heal from this sorrow, and when the time was
right, a family member told us about the adoption opportunities and someone
who could share their adoption story. After many conversations and prayers
we knew this was the direction that was meant for us to have our own family.
I (Del) come from a
large family that lives close by, so there are always family gatherings for
holidays, birthdays, and even everyday occasions. Most of the time it is a
cookout of which I am usually the cook, with the whole family playing
volleyball or softball, from the nieces and nephews up to my mother. As the
only boy growing up with three sisters, I learned a lot about life; from
putting the toilet seat down all the way to cooking, cleaning, and the
caring qualities needed to be a loving individual. Tammy comes from a
smaller family that lives out of state, but visits are still often. She has
one sister who has a three-year-old little girl that loves to call us (and
our dogs) to talk on the phone. The dogs were even invited to her birthday
party! Between the two of us we share seven nieces and nephews and hope to
soon have our own child or children depending on how we may be blessed with
to add to the family.
Before we ever met, we
each suffered tragic experiences with our fathers in which they were lost in
an instant. From this, we have both learned never to take a moment for
granted and enjoy life to the fullest. I always joke with Tammy on how she
never goes to sleep without saying she loves me along with a kiss, even if
we have had a disagreement. But what we are really showing to each other is
that no matter what the day may hold for us that our love for each other is
strong and will overcome everyday obstacles.
We are a very active
couple who enjoys many hobbies including fishing, camping, and reading.
Other interest of ours are sports, traveling, and we love being at the beach
or floating on a lake. With having seven nieces and nephews we enjoy
watching them play soccer, softball, baseball, and football. As a former
football coach it is wonderful to see the next generation to start playing.
Tammy also has a special interest in any crafts and always loves to share
these with the children. Our family colors about one hundred and fifty eggs
every Easter, and I think Tammy gets as excited as the children. We also
enjoy just sharing the little things such as walking our dogs, watching a
movie together, and we always try to share dinner together at our table.
We realize the
magnitude of the decision you face and want to let you know that we are with
you during this time. We will always tell our adoptive child what a
wonderful birthparent you are to have given us this special opportunity to
love and care for them. And that you gave us the greatest gift we will ever
receive in our lifetime. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
Sincerely,
Del and Tammy
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